There Better Be Cheese at the End of This Maze...

I had my first child when I was 25. I thought we were "prepared," HA! I laugh because: a. It's not even remotely possible to prepare oneself for the life shift that will occur when a child arrives, b. Contrary to popular belief, there isn't a book, or even a set of books that can prepare you for welcoming, adjusting to, and then raising a child.

Being an educated woman who loves to know what is going on (can you say control freak?) I naturally sought parenting books during those blissful (and very quiet) pre-baby days as my little firstborn formed in my belly. I was very diligent about reading what I should expect and how to be 'baby...wise' (as if there is such a thing) all the while thinking that all of the information and advice I read was completely doable and I began developing my action plan set to begin the day my little darling arrived.

Oh, and then she did arrive, after 2 false runs to the hospital and a long night of walking the "track" at the hospital while amniotic fluid gushed out into my lovely maternity panties. So, in hindsight, I guess I wasn't in control from the get go. Then my lovely little Elanor came out and she looked straight into our eyes with the intensity we have come to know well, and I thought, "Oh my, this might be harder than I thought..." MIGHT?! Ha!

Thus began my incredibly long and tedious love-hate relationship with parenting books. I always begin reading them with great optimism, hoping to find the pearl that will finally simplify my journey as a parent...only to cast most books under the bed to live with the dust bunnies as they predictably disappoint me and leave me feeling like I have hit yet another wall in the long maze of trying to decode the parenting puzzle... If a book doesn't leave me feeling guilty and judged, then it lets me down into the all-too-familiar pit of disillusionment. I have four VERY different little people growing up in my house, and I while I'm no genius, I am quite confident that the exact same methods are not going to yield the same results with each one.

Long story short, I'm sick of parenting books... hence the blog. I surely don't claim to have the answers... but I believe in a big God and his creativity and wisdom instilled in the other moms he has created... so, let's talk... and lean on bits of brilliance we can glean from one another. Whaddya say?